Take the Sibling Fight Decoder Quiz now! Find your child's fight pattern in 30 seconds.

This quiz looks at one child at a time. If you have more than one, answer with whichever child feels like the primary concern right now — the one you'd most want clarity on today.

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What best describes the primary behaviour you're seeing?

Big emotions, meltdowns, aggression Provoking or being mean on purpose "That's not fair!", keeping score, or toy/turn fights Bossy, controlling play, acting like the parent Annoying, in their space, won't leave sibling alone Blaming, tattling, never their fault

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Does your child also do any of these? (Check all that apply)

Gets physical (hitting, pushing, grabbing) Says mean things or provokes on purpose Won't leave sibling alone even when asked Refuses to share or take turns Tries to be in charge None of the above

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How old is the child doing this?

2–4 5–7 8–10 11+

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Which sounds most like your house day-to-day?

We tend to have a lot of rules/structure We do a lot for our kids Pretty relaxed, go with the flow Depends on the day/kid

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At what time of day does the primary concern often take place?

During unstructured/free play Right after school or a transition When they're tired, hungry, or overstimulated When I'm busy or on the phone In the car Pretty much anytime

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What do you do most often in the moment?

You might do a few of these sometimes — just pick the one that happens most.

Tell them to stop/calm down Separate them Get frustrated and raise my voice Try to make things fair or even it out Threaten, take something away, or punish Feel unsure what to do None of the above

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Is this a newer thing, or has it been building for a while?

Just started recently On and off for months This has been the pattern for a long time

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