What is Heartstring Parenting?
Traditional parenting = Bad behaviour needs a punishment. Child learns better behaviour.
Heartstring parenting = Behaviour is communication. Kids don’t need to feel bad to learn. We can teach a child right from wrong in a more effective way
Stay calm
Work on your own triggers and feelings about your child's behaviour
No punishments
Correct behaviour without guilt about yelling and punishments
Kind boundaries
Set firm and loving limits, while allowing all feelings
Discover Joy
Have daily connection and playful interactions
Learn more about the 4 C’s of Heartstring Parenting
Kids learn to calm and regulate their emotions when we model how to do it. All too often we expect our children to have the skills of self regulation before we have modelled how to do it. We likely weren’t taught how to do it either. Learning and practicing our own self regulation is key to Heartstring parenting. First we model self regulation, then we co-regulate with our children to teach them these skills.
Our influence over our children lies in our strong connection with them. When connected, children WANT to listen and respond to our requests. Connection is an intentional action that we work on daily.
No one can do better by feeling worse. This is true for ourselves and our children. When we learn to shift our mindset over our children’s behaviour, we can view them in a more compassionate light. This will change how we parent. This can be said for our own guilt and shame about our parenting. We can learn to hold ourselves up and have compassion for our struggles.
Our children’s behaviour (good and bad) is communication. When we can look underneath the behaviour, we can begin to address the issues. The way we communicate with our children, and ourselves can make all the difference. The things we tell ourselves about our children’s behaviour have a strong influence over how we react to them.
"If you don't give a child a punishment or a consequence, how will they learn right from wrong? Won't they be spoiled and entitled?"
Heartstring parenting is not permissive and I encourage parents to hold limits and boundaries with kindness and firmness. Teaching children right from wrong is essential and we certainly aren’t allowing kids to do whatever they want. This is about teaching your children in very effective ways, but without punishments or consequences. I know it might seem scary, but I promise you, experts and psychologists all agree that this style of parenting is the most effective form of parenting there is. And it just feels right, you’ll see.
FAQ
No! This is not permissive parenting. You will have rules, limits and boundaries. You will learn to set those and hold them with authority. You will also hold them in a loving and connected way.
Our meetings will take place virtually between myself and the parent/parents.
It is certainly scary to consider a new way of parenting. If you have seen punishments all your life, you might think it’s the only way. With anything new, we need to give ourselves time to adjust.
You’re here for a reason. What you’re doing isn’t working. You aren’t getting the behaviour you want and you are stressed, guilty and needing a new approach.
I promise you, this is it. I have zero doubt in my mind that I can get you results. Book a free meet and greet call with me and see for yourself.
Once you sign up as a client, you get to choose your schedule with me through my booking calendar. Typically, we meet once a week with 1 break per month. Sessions are 60 minutes and done virtually.
“I love you with my whole heart. From where you end, to where you start.”